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The meetings that moved things were never the ones I chased

Twenty two external meetings in a fortnight. Two produced a second meeting. I had counted the first number for months and never counted the second.

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The meetings that moved things were never the ones I chased

I went back through my own calendar this morning and counted external meetings, meaning anything with a real person on the other side rather than a block I put in for myself.

Between 15 and 28 July there were twenty two of them. Fourteen working days.

That fortnight felt like the busiest I have been since I started. It felt like traction. Every one of those meetings was a real conversation with a real person about real work, and I finished most days genuinely believing the business had moved.

Then I counted a second thing, which I had never counted before: how many of those twenty two produced a second meeting.

Two.

The number I was actually managing

Twenty two first meetings and two second meetings is not a pipeline. It is a very active fortnight of introductions.

What makes it worth writing down is that I knew the first number all along. I could have told you it was around twenty without checking. It was the number I used, silently, to decide whether the week had gone well. I had never once counted the second number, and it is the only one of the two that describes whether anything is happening.

This is the same mistake I wrote about at the beginning of the month in a different costume. Then it was a milestone I had not checked. Now it is a metric I chose without noticing I was choosing it, because it was the one that was easy to see and it happened to flatter me.

Where the two came from

Neither of the two threads that continued came from anything I would describe as effort.

One was a conversation that went from a first call to a working session four days later, and it moved because the person on the other side had a specific problem and asked a specific question in the first ten minutes. I did almost nothing to advance it. I answered the question.

The other was someone I spoke to twice in five days, and the second conversation happened because they suggested it before I did.

Of the twenty two meetings, eight were put into my calendar by somebody else rather than by me. Three of those came through an automated introduction service that I set up once and have barely touched since. The other fourteen were meetings I arranged, chased, followed up on, and rearranged.

I want to be careful here, because the obvious conclusion is wrong. The lesson is not that outbound does not work, or that you should sit still and wait to be introduced. Some of the fourteen I arranged were good conversations that may well come back.

The honest conclusion is narrower and less comfortable. The meetings I worked hardest to get are the ones I had the least to say in. I chased them because getting the meeting was the goal, and I arrived without a reason for the meeting to exist beyond the fact that I had wanted it.

The events

In the same fortnight I put three industry events in my diary. A conference day, a summit recap, a founder talk.

Not one of them produced a follow-up meeting with anybody, and I am not sure I expected one when I booked them. I booked them because they were the kind of thing a founder is supposed to do, and because attending felt like a decision while sitting at my desk felt like avoidance.

The week that followed

Here is the part I would prefer to leave out.

From 29 July until today, four working days, I have had zero external meetings. Not fewer. None.

A fortnight of twenty two meetings did not produce a single meeting in the fortnight after it. Whatever that activity was, it was not compounding, and if I had kept score the way I had been keeping it I would have gone from a great two weeks to a dead week without any explanation for either.

The two-second-meeting number explains both perfectly.

What I am changing

I am counting second meetings. That is the whole change, and I am keeping it that small on purpose, because my track record with elaborate new systems is not good.

Two consequences follow on their own. If a first meeting has no reason to become a second one, I would rather find that out during the first meeting than three weeks later. And if I cannot say what the second meeting would be about before the first one starts, I should probably not be chasing it.

There is a version of this post that ends with something confident about quality over quantity. I do not think I have earned that yet. What I have is a fortnight that felt like progress, a week that felt like failure, and the same underlying number explaining both of them.

Motion is not progress. I wrote that sentence a few weeks ago and then spent a fortnight demonstrating it.

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